Now we all know that as much as we wish it were true, there is no "formula" to parenting. It would be so nice to be guaranteed some kind of "perfect" kids if we just followed a laid out plan. But, it's really not the case, inputs don't always equal outputs. This is an issue that I have wrestled with over the years. As I've processed it, God has helped me settle the matter in my heart. We just have to be obedient to the Lord, follow His leading and trust the rest to Him. All our children are unique and will make their own choices. We can get so stressed as parents thinking if we make one wrong decision, our kids will end up delinquents or worse not in relationship with us or the Lord. Well, what is "perfect" anyway? My goal is to raise children that love the Lord with all their heart, mind and soul. So here are some things to simplify the matter. Some things that I think are essential and then I just leave the rest to the Lord. I can't stress about it all. God wants us free to enjoy Him and enjoy our children and enjoy motherhood, not anxious micro-managers of our kids.
So here you go......my "formula":
1. Be involved in a Bible believing church. Attend regularly, get to know the people there. Be accountable to them and let your children learn from the leaders there.
2. Love your children and set a good example to them. This means being nice and loving to your husband and children while trying your best to follow God's word and live a godly life.
3. If at all possible, homeschool your children or send them to Christian school with a Biblical worldview. If for some reason this is not an option, you will need to be more intentional with teaching them the Word and Bible memory. As they get older, have them take courses such as World View Academy to offset the worldly values taught in secular schools.
4. Have family devotions at least weekly and eat meals together as a family. During your family dinner meals pray and talk to each other about your day. Even secular studies show the benefit of the family dinner table.
Well, that's it. I'm just going to relax and leave the rest to Lord.