Saturday, September 12, 2015
Thursday, July 9, 2015
Friday, June 19, 2015
Anyone that knows me or has followed my blog for the last few years, knows I like summer and I like to get things done in the summer. As a homeschooling mom, it really is a nice break from the regular teaching routine and from all the usual extra-curricular activites. I typically make a bucket list of sorts to get done during the summer. Things like organizing and deep cleaning the house, scrapbooking, exercising more, etc. But this summer I've decided to chill. To just enjoy the break, enjoy my children and not try to get all the lists checked off. This past year I had a lovely homeschool mom friend pass away with cancer, another dear friend also get diagnosed with cancer, my oldest son was almost deployed to Iraq and my mother will be turning 80 soon and becoming more frail. All these things have made me ponder life. I've realized that we aren't guaranteed tomorrow with those we love and we won't have these precious years forever with our children at home.
So here is my list of what I'm doing this summer:
1. I'm not setting my alarm unless I really have to.
2. I'm taking my kids to the pool when they want to and actually getting in the pool and playing with them.
3. I'm hiring help so that I can do extra things with my older kids or spend more time with my mom.
4. I'll get my older kids to do the organizing and cleaning out, if they need things to do and want extra money.
5. I'm going tent camping for the first time! My kids and husband have always wanted me to go with them and now that the baby is 4, I think I can try it! (I'm sure that I'll have a blog post on how it turns out.)
6. I'm going to stay in my PJ's longer and spend time reading fun books and play more with my kids.
7. I'm not going to be so obsessed with the clock or my schedule.
8. I'm going to hug more, laugh more and say "I love you" more.
9. I'm going to go on more dates with my husband, even in the day time.
10. I'm just gonna chill!
Saturday, April 18, 2015
I hear just about every day from someone who may be a friend, new acquaintance or a stranger a pretty similar comment. It goes something like this, "I could NEVER have 10 kids!" Actually, many times it's, "I could never have 3 or 4 or 5 or whatever!" Now I'm really right there with these women. I'm no super mom. I'm just a regular girl trying to follow the Lord's will.
Well, I decided to make a list of the reasons why I really shouldn't of had so many kids:
1. I'm selfish and self-centered. I basically was raised a spoiled little brat that got whatever I wanted.
2. I'm not a natural servant. I grew up being served not serving. When I take all those spiritual gifting tests, servanthood is always last on my list.
3. I spent a lot money, tears and work on my bachelor's degree in nursing, so I should use it and not stay home with babies.
4. I'm RH negative. Yes, if I lived 60 years ago I probably wouldn't of been able to have more than 2 healthy children. So I'm thankful for medical science!
5. I'm not crafty and I can barely sew.
6. I'm not patient, in the least! Now I have learned some patience (which I think is one reason God gave my so many kids) but ask any of my children whom I've taught to read and they will tell you how patient I am (smirk....please don't ask them.)
7. I don't like my plans being changed or being interrupted. This is a daily occurrence when you have even just one child.
8. I wasn't the best babysitter growing up and I absolutely hated pediatric nursing.
9. I don't like messes or cluttered dirty houses. This has been a real life changer for me.
10. I like to have "me time" and my husband likes to have "me time with me and no kids." I think he's looking forward to retirement age.
But God molds us and changes us. He knows what we are capable of, even when we don't. He gives us the grace, strength, patience, etc. when we need it. Many times not before, because then we would think that we are capable on our own and can do it without Him. Where God calls, He equips and I'm so very thankful for that. Of course, the world would look at my list and say "no way this lady should have more than 2 kids, let alone 10." But everyday I look at my precious children and I'm so glad that by God's grace, I didn't listen to the world.
Monday, April 6, 2015
Tuesday, March 24, 2015
Saturday, February 28, 2015
I saw this above picture on a friend's facebook page and it really hit a cord with me. I guess because I know so many women that really seem in bondage to the scale. I for one, do not own a scale and rarely ever weigh myself and this is why. I realized in my late 20's that my happiness or how I felt about myself was greatly dependent on what the number on the scale said. If I weighed within what I thought was good for me, then I was so happy but if I weighed more than I wanted to, then I was pretty much depressed the whole day. That is just plain wrong! Nothing should have that much control over our emotions or how we feel about ourselves, if it does then it is an idol. I grew-up with a father that weighed himself every day and wrote it down. He didn't seem to stress over it, but he's a man and his daughters and wife sure were stressed if they felt fat at all. A few years ago when I was loosing baby weight, I was looking at buying a scale at Target. My husband quickly said, "no way!" He did not want me weighing myself regularly and getting into bondage and passing that on to my daughters. I never talk about weight to my girls. I talk nutrition, being healthy and fit to do what God has called them to do but I never talk weight or fat. I also try to never down-talk myself or my body. That is also a really bad example that your children pick-up even if you don't want them to. Now, if a person has over 30 pounds to loose or has been told by a health professional that they should loose weight, then they should weigh regularly to make sure the scale is going down. I still would shy away from owning one though. It seems that most women I know that are bondage to the scale are already thin. They weigh daily and get upset when it's up and they have been "eating basically nothing but vegetables." I do not think God wants us obsessing with the scale or numbers. I really do only weigh when I have to go to the doctor. Instead of weighing, I just go by how my clothes are fitting. Once I got to the size I wanted to be when I was doing THM after my last baby, then I just decided to maintain by exercising daily and eating healthy. And for the record, I didn't really weigh when I was doing THM either. I lost a good amount of weight and when my husband and daughter told me not to loose anymore, then I relaxed and was not so strict. Anyway, I think we as women need to walk in freedom and just say "good-bye" to the silly scale (which can fluctuate by the minute for us women anyway!) Just like this saying above, we are valued by our love for others and the love they have for us. What makes us truly beautiful is the love of Jesus shining from our eyes and our lives, not how thin we are.