We all go through hard times. We all go through seasons. I'm thankful for the change in seasons and how God keeps things interesting. But why am I not thankful for hard times? They draw me closer to the Lord. They bring me to my knees. They humble me and sober me but why do I just want to get through them? To just be on the other side. To have all my prayers answered the way I want them answered. To be through the pain. I guess we all rush it, we all don't want difficult times, because they hurt. Not only that, they shake our faith. They make us wonder what we did to deserve this, where is God, why didn't we see this coming, and a host of other doubts.
As a mother, I've been through hard times before but these past months have truly been some of the hardest. Though I can't get into the details, God has been faithful. God is using this to draw me closer to Him and to get rid of any idols in my life. I've learned to just let Him have it all, to just give it to Him and walk away. As a mother, when it comes to our children, this is very hard. No matter how old they may be, they are still our babies and really a part of us. But as they age, we have to slowly let go and this means letting them make mistakes. We can't control them anymore. We can only trust God with them. He loves them even more than we do.
I wanted to write this post not only to explain why I have not blogged lately, but to encourage anyone going through difficult times as well. You are not alone. We all smile and many times pretend everything is fine, but we need to be more transparent with each other. We need to ask for help, ask for prayer and not be afraid of being judged. I also wanted to encourage all of us moms to "let go and let God." I know that sounds cliche but really it's true. Our children are not our own. They are the Lord's and we have been given them for a time as stewards. We may be able to control them when they are little but not forever. The sooner we learn to let go, to trust them to the Lord, really the better it will be....not only in our own heart but in theirs as well.
Job 2:10 "Shall we accept good from God, and not trouble?"
Friday, May 20, 2016
Thursday, February 18, 2016
Yes, it's kind of pricey but we budget all year so we can go.
Yes, it's hard to leave the kids but it's actually good for them and great for us as a couple.
Yes, it takes planning, finding the best sitter, preparing meals ahead of time and making lists and more lists. But let me tell you, it is so worth it!
Like I've said in previous blog posts, your kids will grow-up and leave home but your spouse will be there with you for a a life time. Also, a great analogy is a living cell. If the nucleus of a cell is not healthy, the whole cell is unhealthy. Our marriage relationship is the nucleus of our family cell. It seems like so many moms now-a-days put so much time, energy and mental energy into keeping their children happy and healthy (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually healthy) but very little time into keeping their marriage relationship happy and healthy. I'll get off my soap box now, but I like how my husband put it in an instagram post he did, "Sabbatical, rest, recovery. Our marital soul is in desperate need of these like a car needs a tune-up. Between kids, jobs, bills and disappointments our hearts cry out for a soul connection to God's greatest gift to us-our life covenant partner."
So, even if you have to take your nursing baby with you (notice I said baby not toddler..haha) and can't go very far, just do it. Go away with your hubby and give him the undivided attention he deserves.
Saturday, January 23, 2016
|Like a bad attitude in the grocery store and not so healthy items in the grocery cart.|
Many times I have younger moms tell me, "gee, you're so chill about everything." Now those who know me better know this is not always the case. I certainly have my moments but I think it's funny how moms I meet in our homeschool group, at church or just around our neighborhood think I'm so relaxed. One mom told me recently, "You just seem not to get frazzled by small things." Well, I hope that is true and I think after years of parenting so many children, I've learned to not sweat the small stuff. By small stuff, I don't mean essentials (see previous post) or things that will have a lasting effect on my life or one of my children's lives. But here are some things I see moms "sweating over" that just really don't matter in the long run.
-My child made a B so they won't get in a good college.
-My child didn't make the right soccer team.
-My child didn't get the right part in the play.
-My child doesn't say "please" and "thank you" every single time.
-Or younger moms, "I had to wean my baby before 12 months."
-My child has been so grumpy lately (they're teenagers, it's normal)
- My child ate a non-organic fruit or worse, fast food!
-My child watched a mindless TV show.
-My child wants to wear the same outfit everyday.
-My child says they don't like church...gasp!
Well, you get the picture.
Sometimes I just want to tell these moms, "Chill out! You're letting these minor things steal your joy and rob you of this precious, fleeting time with your young children!"
So, let's all take a deep breath and try to see things from God's eternal perspective and not sweat it.
Thursday, January 14, 2016
Now we all know that as much as we wish it were true, there is no "formula" to parenting. It would be so nice to be guaranteed some kind of "perfect" kids if we just followed a laid out plan. But, it's really not the case, inputs don't always equal outputs. This is an issue that I have wrestled with over the years. As I've processed it, God has helped me settle the matter in my heart. We just have to be obedient to the Lord, follow His leading and trust the rest to Him. All our children are unique and will make their own choices. We can get so stressed as parents thinking if we make one wrong decision, our kids will end up delinquents or worse not in relationship with us or the Lord. Well, what is "perfect" anyway? My goal is to raise children that love the Lord with all their heart, mind and soul. So here are some things to simplify the matter. Some things that I think are essential and then I just leave the rest to the Lord. I can't stress about it all. God wants us free to enjoy Him and enjoy our children and enjoy motherhood, not anxious micro-managers of our kids.
So here you go......my "formula":
1. Be involved in a Bible believing church. Attend regularly, get to know the people there. Be accountable to them and let your children learn from the leaders there.
2. Love your children and set a good example to them. This means being nice and loving to your husband and children while trying your best to follow God's word and live a godly life.
3. If at all possible, homeschool your children or send them to Christian school with a Biblical worldview. If for some reason this is not an option, you will need to be more intentional with teaching them the Word and Bible memory. As they get older, have them take courses such as World View Academy to offset the worldly values taught in secular schools.
4. Have family devotions at least weekly and eat meals together as a family. During your family dinner meals pray and talk to each other about your day. Even secular studies show the benefit of the family dinner table.
Well, that's it. I'm just going to relax and leave the rest to Lord.
Friday, January 1, 2016
|My top Instagram posts basically sum up 2015.|
Monday, December 28, 2015
|My boy with the Chicos! They loved him.|
|All of the chaperones. I had such a fun time getting to know these other moms, dads and teachers.|